A mistake is something that someone else defines as wrong, but you did the actions of it so you obviously didn’t think it was wrong at the time. It’s only when someone else gets upset with or hurt by your actions that you feel bad about what you did, therefore deeming it a “mistake.” You could drop your toast on the floor, but no one would get mad, so you wouldn't feel as though you’ve just made a mistake. You could kiss your friend’s ex and your friend would get angry, so you would feel bad about it as though you’ve made a mistake. If people truly, 100% cared for someone, they would never punish that person for his or her actions, but, people are selfish, not selfless. No one is capable of letting everyone off the hook all the time, It’s just not in our nature.
You can think of someone else for 2 seconds and realize they did what they did because they wanted to, felt as though they needed to, or did it to be happy. If you seriously thought about that, AND cared about his or her reason, there would be a lot less “mistakes” made. I don't ever really hold grudges against people, because they have their reasons for doing what they did. Also, I don't hold grudges because I do my very best to not be hypocritical. I’ve done things that would hurt people’s feelings, which would make me feel bad, as though I’ve made a mistake, but these things weren’t done out of malice. If someone were to think about WHY someone does something, rather than just the fact that they did it, there would be a lot more understanding. Just think about it.
Readers may think that people just shouldn't do things that could potentially hurt their loved ones. That's where their reasoning comes in. If a girl liked a guy but she never expressed that to her friend before her friend started dating the guy, then the friend shouldn't be mad if the girl dates him after they break up. That's just an easy example.
Basically, I think people shouldn't be afraid to make themselves happy. Don't do anything just to hurt someone, but after thinking a situation through, make sure you're going to do what you want and what will make you happy. Your loved ones will just have to understand.
You make a good point and I agree with you; however, I disagree with your logic. No one should be afraid to make themselves happy and should do what is necessary to achieve that purpose. People will get hurt regardless of what you do because everyone, in today's social tragedy, is so sensitive that regardless of what you do or how you do it you will offend them. That being said my question is why would you waste your time and energy in worrying about what others think about you or what you do? In regards to dating someone your friend has dated, its tricky, do it if you believe that it's the right thing to do but you might lose a friend over it. I don't think I would try it... It's hard to find good friends, but it's easy to find a new girlfriend/boyfriend. Also, the former lasts longer than the latter in almost every situation.
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